Astrology & Sex
What is the relationship between astrology and sex? What messages can the zodiac sign give us about our sexual behavior, our way of relating as a couple and our desires? How does this factor influence how we experience sex?
Astrology is an ancient science related to psychological, sociological and energetic dynamics. It gives us great insight into our lives and can teach us a lot about many aspects of being human and of course also about sexuality. Nevertheless, it will always remain just knowledge if we don't discover it on our own and explore our sex life. Astrology won't help either here.
Sexual energies have a mind-expanding effect and give us a healthy and happy life. Astrology is a wise tool to help us to become more aware of our aspects of ourselves, whether as singles, as a couple, as an interest in personal development, or simply to explore sex life more deeply. As astrologers, we always look at the entire dynamic of a person's individual chart. Of course we can say a lot by simple planetary constellations, but this is described only by the surface of the iceberg by a huge ocean.
Before we get into the subject of astrology and sexuality, two questions must be included as essential guidelines:
What exactly do we mean when we talk about good sex?
And what do we need to experience quality in sex?
When we speak of quality sex life, the principle of openness and willingness has to be brought along as an inner attitude. Getting to know ourselves and our sex life, but above all relationship to our partner, is the essence. If we allow ourselves to engage with our partner and be open to whatever dynamics sex takes on, we also open ourselves to new aspects of life and enjoyment.
The quality of sex, as well as the general quality of life, means that the deeper we have already met ourselves, the deeper we have the ability to meet others. In other words, the better we have already experienced our sexuality, the better we can get involved with ourselves and our partner, or not. This is also the basic attitude of astrology. And that's where we can bring in astrology as a knowledge tool.
Which partners we find attractive and which ones we don't and why. Which sexual fantasies or moods we like and which ones we don't. What are our preferences and what turns us completely off? We get to know our individual needs and those of our partner. But astrology also shows us phases of life. Are we in a phase of life where we are looking for a permanent partner or do we just want adventurous and non-binding sex.
Basically, however, the astrological statements are very truthful and detailed, almost too detailed. The slumbering depths of our humanity and our potential within it can also seem a bit scary for some people, but that's all part of it.
The main planets for astrologically delving into the realms of sexuality are Venus and Mars. Nevertheless, an essential part lies in your main sign, the sun and your moon constellation. Why? Because they tell us who we really are inside and do show us what we fundamentally need in order to let ourselves go mentally, emotionally and physically in sex life. If we feel safe in it, we have the opportunity to live out our sexual needs 100%. Without a sense of fundamental security, acting out the quality of sex is considered diminished and cannot be acted out to experience fullness. Therefore we cannot only speak of Venus and Mars constellations when exploring sexual energies.
Some zodiac signs complete each other better than others. This has primarily something to do with the respective character traits. Certain zodiac sign combinations have a high level of compatibility and can therefore result in a perfect match.
Examples are Aries and Aquarius. There is never a dull moment between Aries and Aquarius, which makes this relationship extremely exciting. Taurus and Cancer are also serious about their security needs. Other positive combinations are Leo and Sagittarius, Virgo and Taurus, Libra and Gemini, and Pisces and Scorpio.
Of course, whether a relationship between two people works and whether things are going well in the bedroom does not depend solely on the zodiac sign. But if the compatibility of the zodiac signs is correct, Mars and Venus are the two other main indicators of our sex energies.
Mars, the red planet influences your sex drive on many levels. It represents our way of acting, our strength, where we show initiative and our sexuality and desire. It ensures the flow of your sexual energies and influences when, how and where you want to have fun with your partner. Examples are, with Mars in Scorpio you are bursting with sexual energy and are irresistible. Mars in Aries likes to be direct and bold, Mars in Taurus likes to be cautious and careful, as does Mars in Cancer. With Mars in Capricorn, perseverance is guaranteed, and Mars in Aquarius loves to embark on no-strings-attached adventures.
Venus stands as the goddess of love, as the feminine principles that exist in all of us. It signifies devotion, union, fusion, fertility, creation and the associated aesthetics. It shows us how we relate and how and who we love and how we would like to be loved. She is the female symbol of the senses and represents the realm of absolute pleasure and the deepest desires. She gives us clarity about our own love habits and what we find beautiful and attractive in a sensitive and heart-moving way. So she is the great teacher of pure love. Body parts that belong to Venus are skin, kidneys, balance and veins.
What is also very exciting to mention is that astrology also gives us information about which zodiac signs prefer which sex techniques and which do not. She even shows us which physical touches and body parts make each sign aphrodisiac. How the Leo man prefers his neck and the Cancer woman loves oral foreplay.
Furthermore, Venus is also linked to the 2nd and 7th houses. However, the topics separate enormously. In the 2nd house we find the relationship to ourselves, our own value and also our value system. The 7th house is all about love, relationship and connection. Here we meet the desire for union, fusion and love. Therefore, in astrology it is not only important to know our zodiac sign, neither our Venus and Mars position, but also to understand the elements of our 2nd and 7th houses.
So far so good, we can already gain deeper insights here, whereby we "only" looked at the planetary positions at birth. If we work with the current transits of the planets, we can also better understand the here and now and even see our future love affairs and events. In addition, you can also carry out individual chart calculations with your current partner, which gives very exciting insights into your relationship and your common sexual preferences.
There are now very good online websites that you can search through with astrological aspects. However, an individual astro reading of your personal chart or a reading of your current partnership is always recommended.
In summary, we can say that acquiring astrological knowledge not only increases your awareness of your preferences and your choice of partner, it also intensifies and enriches your sex life in every imaginable way.
Nevertheless, it remains to be said that there is nothing like our own experience, which we have discovered ourselves in our love affairs. Whether you prefer oral foreplay or are enchanted by vows of love, you alone make the discovery and that is the core that guides astrology and may open and inspire you to many facets of life. Astrology is a journey of discovery and self-development, whether in general life or behind closed bedroom doors.
published march 2023 for La Marca Well
